When my wife and I found out we were pregnant (which by and of itself was something of a medical miracle), we decided we wanted to do everything we could to give our baby the healthiest start possible in a world flooded with pollutants and toxins. We had already begun eating healthier prior to the pregnancy, and continued that trend through the pregnancy and beyond. I started doing more research into the benefits of organic produce, hormone-free meats, and raw dairy products. We began eliminating things from our home and life that we discovered could be replaced with healthier, less dangerous alternatives. Simple changes began to add up to a new lifestyle. And then the car accident happened.
Prior to the accident, I was a self-employed business owner, and we lived comfortably on my income. On a single sunny October day, I lost all of my income, and began a downward spiral that would eventually lead to us losing our house, our car, and a good portion of our sanity. This all occurred just over a month away from our son being born, and definitely changed the parameters of our thinking. However, we were still determined to give our son the best start in life, and rearranged plans as necessary to do so.
My son was born in Dec 2006, a healthy baby boy delivered vaginally in a hospital, and my wife, who had initial intentions to have him naturally, opted to get an epidural. Overall, the birth was very quick, with time from water breaking at home to delivery in hospital just over 8 hours with no interventions. Looking back, we would do things differently, and my wife has since changed her thinking quite dramatically, but again, at that time facing loss of everything we held dear, thoughts and judgements were a little clouded.
My son is now two, and we continue to grow and learn as parents. Our income is reduced from where we thought we would be, as I had to go back to being an employee and abandon my business, so we've had to make changes in our lives. This has also allowed us to learn frugal, natural ways of living.
I wish to share my experiences with others, with a focus primarily on what it means to be a Dad in a family that is choosing to go against the "norm" when it comes to parenting. I hope that my stories give strength to other Dads that might be going through similar life experiences, and also help Moms to understand why their partners might sometimes act they way we do.